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May 23Liked by Timothy

Today we drove through a lively neighborhood where our relationship bloomed 39 years ago. Now we live in a much quieter, more amenable neighborhood in very different bodies. We talked about those changes. Perhaps these passages are very conventional. I tried to graph trajectories: body down, house up. Bad math. For us it’s happy and natural. By the way, as an architect my reflex is to take your build features condition assessment literally; i put that aside so that I could get reach a conclusion.

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May 21Liked by Timothy

Congratulations on your major promotion at work! 👏 👏 👏 That's fantastic news and well-deserved, I'm sure. Sorry you lost your rooftop oasis; I, too, would pine for a place like that.

I enjoyed reading the thought experiment about home being in relationship to your body, although my sequencing varies from yours. A quick explanation here. I'm an admirer of Clarissa Pinkola Estes and enjoy her description of the body as a consort companion. It helps me to address my body as a trusted companion and fellow traveller, to be able to grow a bond and affection with it.

I've felt detached from my house as a site of injury. It's likely logical to question why stay here then, but life has lots of layers with fewer easy solutions. Many people give advice about reclaiming a place through painting and rearranging, etc. But similar to the body, changing the surface doesn't give meaning beyond potentially seeing possibilities and change.

However, I'm attracted to the idea of a home being a companion and fellow traveller. I might be influenced by an affinity for magic realism but it feels more genuine and peaceful than the forceful reshaping of a space. I'm not sure if this resonates with you in your new home or not. I hope you find new ways of enjoying an oasis with your body.

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Thank you for the congratulations and for your thoughts! I appreciate your perspective and can relate to the companion metaphor as well!

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May 20Liked by Timothy

Always enjoy your perspective and thoughts. Hope you can find a new space to enjoy nature naturally 😎.

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May 20Liked by Timothy

Thoughtful and articulate writing. Enjoy your new 'spot'

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Best Of Luck in your new location.

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All best to you in your new location!

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